Thursday, December 23, 2010
Dibelenggu Pengalaman
Pengalaman. Guru yang sangat berkesan. Boleh jadi satu memori hitam yang cukup menyakitkan.
Apa yang sedang kita alami sekarang, sebentar lagi akan menjadi pengalaman. Setiap hari kita menimba pengalaman baru, meneroka alam kehidupan yang penuh dengan perkara-perkara yang harus dialami, tiada terkecuali. Sekadar pengalaman tidak cukup membuatkan kita menjadi lebih baik jika tidak ada yang kita pelajari daripadanya. Bahkan mungkin, pengalaman dapat membawa kita ke dalam kehidupan yang penuh kerisauan, ketakutan, kebimbangan dan ketidakpastian. Kita buntu, tidak berani melangkah kerana pengalaman silam cukup memeritkan. Apabila itu yang kita alami dan kita tidak bisa keluar daripada pola pemikiran tersebut, sedarilah bahawa kita sedang DIBELENGGU PENGALAMAN!
Pengalaman Memberi Kesan
Sedar atau tidak, pengalaman memberikan kesan yang besar dalam kehidupan kita. Impak daripada pengalaman bergantung kepada respons ataupun tindakbalas kita terhadap pengalaman tersebut. Seperit mana pengalaman pasti bererti buat orang yang tahu belajar daripadanya. Sebaliknya, semanis mana pengalaman takkan ada harganya bagi orang yang tidak pernah ingin berubah menjadi lebih baik. Contohnya, kegagalan dalam hidup boleh jadi membuatkan seseorang semakin gigih untuk mengecap kejayaan, mungkin juga ada yang semakin takut menghadapi ujian dek kegagalan yang pernah ia alami. Kesannya berbeza, dengan situasi yang sama. Itulah dia bahaya yang harus kita hadapi daripada pengalaman seharian dalam kehidupan.
Jangan sampai belenggu yang kita letakkan daripada sesuatu pengalaman membuatkan kita terperosok dalam hidup yang penuh penyesalan dan tanda tanya. Silakan! Silakan jika kita ingin salahkan persekitaran, situasi dan fenomena. Tetapi ingat bahawa selamanya kita takkan pernah menjadi lebih baik dan belajar daripada pengalaman.
Permasalahan utama ialah diri sebelum persekitaran.
Cuba kita renungkan, berapa banyak pengalaman yang telah melonjakkan kita menjadi lebih baik? Dan berapa banyak pula pengalaman yang menolak kita ke belakang untuk sentiasa pasif dalam kehidupan? Fikirkan! Jangan biar belenggu itu menguasai diri kita!
Belajar daripada pengalaman
Bagaimana caranya agar kita bisa belajar daripada setiap pengalaman yang kita lalui dan menjadikannya sebagai stimulus atau perangsang kepada kehidupan yang lebih baik?
Jadilah orang yang positif! Mengapa perlu masa silam menjadi dinding untuk kita terus maju ke hadapan? Adakah kita terlalu lemah sehingga hidup kita terkongkong dalam pengalaman peribadi yang memasukkan kita ke tahap pemikiran “STATIK” dan tidak “PRODUKTIF”? Apakah segala yang Allah timpakan kepada kita bertujuan untuk menolak kita ke belakang dan menghalang kita untuk terus melaksanakan perintahnya dengan penuh semangat dan bertenaga? Jangan sampai kita menyalahkan takdir sedangkan permasalahan sebenar adalah DALAM DIRI KITA!
Seribu Satu Pengalaman
Dalam hidup ini, seribu satu perkara akan kita alami. Ertinya, seribu satu pengalaman akan kita perolehi dalam pelbagai aspek kehidupan. Orang positif akan melihat ini sebagai peluang untuk menjadi lebih baik dalam setiap aspek kehidupan. Orang lemah dan negatif akan membuat alasan untuk mundur dalam segenap aspek kehidupan.
“Aku dah pernah try dah, memang tak boleh punya….“
Cukup! Cukup dengan alasan ini yang membuatkan kita menjadi lemah dan hina tanpa daya usaha yang gigih demi mencapai Redha Allah. Adakah Rasulullah berhenti berdakwah setelah pengalaman yang Baginda peroleh hasil kerja Dakwah di Thaif? Adakah Nabi Nuh lari daripada medan Dakwah setelah seruannya malam dan siang tak pernah diendahkan? Bukankah itu pengalaman?
Adakah Thomas Edison berhenti membuat eksperimen mencipta mentol setelah mengalami kegagalan beberapa kali? Bahkan mencecah ribuan. Adakah rakyat Palestin terus menyerah kerana telah beberapa kali mengalami penindasan oleh Israel dan sehingga hari ini masih lagi ditindas? Tapi kita? Sedikit ujian telah cukup membina dinding tebal yang menghalang kita untuk terus maju. Lihatlah besarnya kesan “BELENGGU PENGALAMAN”
Ingatlah wahai pembaca dan sahabat sekalian, tidak ada siapa yang rugi jika kita terus berada dalam belenggu pengalaman. Bahkan, kitalah yang akan terus ketinggalan di belakang di saat orang terus menerus mencipta kejayaan demi kejayaan. Jika kita salah seorang yang dibelenggu pengalaman, bagaimana kita boleh berbangga mengatakan AKU SEORANG ISLAM?
Islam tidak pernah mengajar Umatnya menjadi lemah dan takut, serta sering mencari alasan. Islam menyuruh kita menerobos ke dalam hati dan diri sendiri dan menjadi lebih baik!
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
malam2 ku..
hurm mlm nie aku bersendrian lg ditemani cahaya lappy aku...diri ku masih sedih lg...kali nie aku buntu..buntu sngt2....aku malu ngn sume org....nape laa nasib ku mcm nie....setiap mlm aku menangis...selagi aku boley menangis selagi itu aku akn menangis...tiapkali aku mengenang nasib dri ku ini aku merasa kan sesuatu perasaan yg mmbuat kan aku semakin lemah...aduii..smpai bila harus aku menangung sume ini...smpai bilerr????....tolong laa aku...need someone...but.........hurm....setiap hari aku slalu memikirkan ape kesudahan nasib ku ini....aku perlukan satu perubahan bg dri ku...ya ALLAH....aku da tanam azam dalam driku ini untuk berubah tetapi....aku tkut..aku tkut ngn ape yg aku tanam itu..aku tkut sume tu jadi hangat2 tahi ayam.....aku tkut...aku perlukan someone......aku nk buktikan pada dunia yg aku boley lakukan nyer...hurm..... :-(
Yang menulis,Wan Mohd Hazwan
Monday, December 20, 2010
hati berbuku..
tajuk nie aku amik sbb mmber yg pling baik yg penah aku kenali bg kat aku...so sbagai tnda aku menghargai jasa dia so aku gune laa tjuk nie...tp tjuk ni gak same je ngn mood aku mlm nie...fuhh..sedih sedih sungguh mlm nie..x tau laa kenapa..mlm aku aku memikirkan semuanyer...pasal driku...nasib ku...n perasaan aku....ya ALLAH...tolong laa aku...aku perlukan pertolongan dari mu ya ALLAH.....aku insan yg lemah.....ok....first,nape laamlm nie aku rase xde mood sngt...bdn aku panas jer..kepala sakit..hurm...mybe tu laa balasan untuk aku yg hina ini....aku tringin sngt nk brubah...bnyk mksud brubah ini...aku nk brubah untuk buktikan kpda mak n yah aku yg aku nie bukan bodh n tak berguna bg diorang...second...aku nk brubah sbb ALLAH..aku mahu patuh pada suruhan ALLAH...so..sku perlukan someone untuk mmbri aku semangat...somenone yg x penah knl erti jemu untuk mmberi smngat pda aku...hurm..alangkan bahgia nyer kalo dapat dipertemukan dngn someone tu....hurm....aku sedih...sedih...n aku trus menangis.....ya ALLAH..kenapalah dri ku sebegini...ampunkanlah dosa2 hamba mu ini..aku insan yg lemah..mudah digoda n mudah mengikut nafsu syaitan....tolonggg aku...keluarkan dari semua ini...aku mahu berubah....coretan wan mohd hazwan...mood:
:-(
Yang menulis,Wan Mohd Hazwan
:-(
Thursday, December 16, 2010
tips To be HappY
Tip 1
Make happiness a priority. If happiness is not at the
top of your list then other things will take precedence.
If other things take precedence, they may well interfere
with your efforts to feel good.
Tip 2
Make plans to be happy. Those who fail to plan, plan
to fail. Just like in any other life domain, the successful
pursuit of happiness requires planning.
Tip 3
Set happy goals. Following on from Tip 2, planning
requires effective goal setting. And don’t forget to
make sure your goals are SMART (specific,
measurable, achievable, relevant and timed).
Tip 4
Do things that make you happy. Although this
sounds obvious, many people simple forget to do
things from which they gain pleasure. And do them as
often as possible.
Tip 5
Set yourself tasks from which you’ll gain
satisfaction. As well as pleasure and enjoyment,
satisfaction is also an important part of happiness. So
make sure that when you’re planning your tasks and
activities you include things that might not be fun, but
from which you’ll gain a sense of achievement.
Tip 6
Play and have fun. Don’t take life too seriously.
Although we all have responsibilities there’s no reason
why we can’t approach much of our lives in a playful
manner. In fact, those who do so will undoubtedly be
happier.
Tip 7
Identify where your strengths lie. Know where your
faults and weaknesses are to avoid problems. Know
where your strengths lie to be really happy and to
succeed in life.
Tip 8
Utilise your strengths. Although we all can and
should endeavour to improve in areas in which we’re
weak there’s just as much, if not more, to be gained
from focusing on the maximal utilisation of your
strengths (including all your positive qualities and
attributes)
Tip 9
Be curious. Constantly search for new ways to be
happy. Keep a look out for new ways to approach life
and to have fun.
Tip 10
Be grateful and appreciate what you have. We all
have many choices in life one of which is whether to
focus on all the things we don’t have (of which there
might be many), or to focus on all the things we do
have. There’s no doubt, that gratitude and
appreciation will significantly increase your chances of
experiencing happiness.
Tip 11
Learn to like and ideally to love yourself. We must
love before we can be loved. To love others and to be
loved by others is a key component of happiness.
Tip 12
Invest time and energy in to your key
relationships. Happy people spend more time
working on and in their relationships. Happy people
tend to be more supportive of other people in their life.
Happy people are more generous and altruistic.
Tip 13
Socialise and interact with others as much as
possible. Happy people have both more and better
quality relationships. So as well as working to improve
the quality of your relationships (as noted in Tip 12) it’s
also worthwhile working to improve the number of your
relationships.
Tip 14
Weed out unhelpful thoughts. The Dalai Lama has
been quoted saying that “The central method for
achieving a happier life is to train your mind in a daily
practice that weakens negative attitudes and
strengthens positive ones.” Learn first to identify your
thoughts and then begin to challenge those that are
negative and unhelpful.
Tip 15
Plant happier, optimistic thoughts. As noted in Tip
14, there are two parts to developing helpful, optimistic
thinking. The first is to weed out unhelpful negative
thoughts and the second is to plant more positive,
optimistic ones. This is essentially a skill, and like any
other skill becomes easier and more effective with
practice.
Tip 16
Live a healthy life. Eat well and keep active.
Exercise regularly. Although not impossible, it’s
difficult to be happy if you’re constantly sick and not
very healthy.
Tip 17
Ensure you gain adequate sleep and rest.
Consistent with Tip 16, it’s difficult to be happy if you’re
constantly tired and struggling to find enough energy to
get through the day. To assist with this, regularly
practice relaxation and/or meditation strategies.
Tip 18
Manage your time and priorities. Happy people tend
to believe they’re more in control of their lives. In
doing so, they’re more likely to take an active
approach to solving problems. If something’s not quite
right in your life, do something. And further, make sure
that what you’re doing is important. Put first things
first.
Tip 19
Control what you can control. Accept what you
can’t control. And learn to be wise enough to know the
difference.
Tip 20
Live in the present moment. The author, Henry
Miller once said “Every moment is a golden one for
him who has the vision to recognise it as such.” The
only moment in which we can truly be happy is the
present moment. The only moment over which we
have control is the present moment. So be happy
now! Because if not now, then when?
Yang menulis,Wan Mohd Hazwan
Make happiness a priority. If happiness is not at the
top of your list then other things will take precedence.
If other things take precedence, they may well interfere
with your efforts to feel good.
Tip 2
Make plans to be happy. Those who fail to plan, plan
to fail. Just like in any other life domain, the successful
pursuit of happiness requires planning.
Tip 3
Set happy goals. Following on from Tip 2, planning
requires effective goal setting. And don’t forget to
make sure your goals are SMART (specific,
measurable, achievable, relevant and timed).
Tip 4
Do things that make you happy. Although this
sounds obvious, many people simple forget to do
things from which they gain pleasure. And do them as
often as possible.
Tip 5
Set yourself tasks from which you’ll gain
satisfaction. As well as pleasure and enjoyment,
satisfaction is also an important part of happiness. So
make sure that when you’re planning your tasks and
activities you include things that might not be fun, but
from which you’ll gain a sense of achievement.
Tip 6
Play and have fun. Don’t take life too seriously.
Although we all have responsibilities there’s no reason
why we can’t approach much of our lives in a playful
manner. In fact, those who do so will undoubtedly be
happier.
Tip 7
Identify where your strengths lie. Know where your
faults and weaknesses are to avoid problems. Know
where your strengths lie to be really happy and to
succeed in life.
Tip 8
Utilise your strengths. Although we all can and
should endeavour to improve in areas in which we’re
weak there’s just as much, if not more, to be gained
from focusing on the maximal utilisation of your
strengths (including all your positive qualities and
attributes)
Tip 9
Be curious. Constantly search for new ways to be
happy. Keep a look out for new ways to approach life
and to have fun.
Tip 10
Be grateful and appreciate what you have. We all
have many choices in life one of which is whether to
focus on all the things we don’t have (of which there
might be many), or to focus on all the things we do
have. There’s no doubt, that gratitude and
appreciation will significantly increase your chances of
experiencing happiness.
Tip 11
Learn to like and ideally to love yourself. We must
love before we can be loved. To love others and to be
loved by others is a key component of happiness.
Tip 12
Invest time and energy in to your key
relationships. Happy people spend more time
working on and in their relationships. Happy people
tend to be more supportive of other people in their life.
Happy people are more generous and altruistic.
Tip 13
Socialise and interact with others as much as
possible. Happy people have both more and better
quality relationships. So as well as working to improve
the quality of your relationships (as noted in Tip 12) it’s
also worthwhile working to improve the number of your
relationships.
Tip 14
Weed out unhelpful thoughts. The Dalai Lama has
been quoted saying that “The central method for
achieving a happier life is to train your mind in a daily
practice that weakens negative attitudes and
strengthens positive ones.” Learn first to identify your
thoughts and then begin to challenge those that are
negative and unhelpful.
Tip 15
Plant happier, optimistic thoughts. As noted in Tip
14, there are two parts to developing helpful, optimistic
thinking. The first is to weed out unhelpful negative
thoughts and the second is to plant more positive,
optimistic ones. This is essentially a skill, and like any
other skill becomes easier and more effective with
practice.
Tip 16
Live a healthy life. Eat well and keep active.
Exercise regularly. Although not impossible, it’s
difficult to be happy if you’re constantly sick and not
very healthy.
Tip 17
Ensure you gain adequate sleep and rest.
Consistent with Tip 16, it’s difficult to be happy if you’re
constantly tired and struggling to find enough energy to
get through the day. To assist with this, regularly
practice relaxation and/or meditation strategies.
Tip 18
Manage your time and priorities. Happy people tend
to believe they’re more in control of their lives. In
doing so, they’re more likely to take an active
approach to solving problems. If something’s not quite
right in your life, do something. And further, make sure
that what you’re doing is important. Put first things
first.
Tip 19
Control what you can control. Accept what you
can’t control. And learn to be wise enough to know the
difference.
Tip 20
Live in the present moment. The author, Henry
Miller once said “Every moment is a golden one for
him who has the vision to recognise it as such.” The
only moment in which we can truly be happy is the
present moment. The only moment over which we
have control is the present moment. So be happy
now! Because if not now, then when?
Monday, December 13, 2010
berdiri seorang Perindu...
berdiri seorang perindu????hurm...bnyk maksud yg nk aku smpai kn tu..ahhaha...tp mlshnyer aku pown x tau ape mksud nyer...hahhaa..x pe laa..aku cube....setelah lme aku berdiam dri n memendamkan prasaan ini..so..now aku nk luah....sejak dua menjak nie aku bnyk melihat gelagak org perempuan....hhuhuu.....pompuan2......same je sume..yg bezanyer cume ade yg gemok..kurus keding..tinggi da sebagainyer....tetapi perwatakan still sme...ssh nyer nk jumpe yg btol2 nieh...aduii...bile laa nk jumpe nier.....ahahhaa.....pndai bergya,beriman,cantik,tinggi...fuhhhh....inilah laa idaman aku..hahahaa...kantoi...kadang2 aku tergelak sorang2 jgk bile memikirkan mende nie..hahaha..klaka jugak aku nie..poyo nk mampos....ahahah.....weiii...sedar laa dri tu..kalo nk org yg cm tu kne laa cermin kan dri tu...hahh...nie dri pown tah pape2 tah.....so aku kne laa sedar..msih bnyk g kekurangn yg terdapat pada aku...hurm....tetapi bg ku....ok..aku percaya aku mampu untuk berbuat sedemikian...aku cube untuk menjadi yg terbaik......so aku cube laa....waaa....bosan2...xde ayat nie..aduiii..perah2..ahhaha...bodo la aku..ape laa yg aku merapu pagi2 nie..hurm...nie laa nasib berdiri seorang perindu....hahaha..sori laa sy merapu ckit.. x tau nk tulis pe...:-)..peace...
Yang menulis,Wan Mohd Hazwan
Thursday, December 2, 2010
bilA diri Ini x lagi dePerdulikan....aku reDo...
hurm,...mlm nie aku sedih sngt....x de sape lg yg pedulikan aku....aku rase sedih yg teramat sngt...kenape harus aku yg ptut menanggung derita ini.......aku sedih sngt..tika inie air mata ku berlinangan....xde sape lg yg pedulikan diri inie...mlm nie laa mlm pling sedih bg ku...hurm...tp aku redha dngn suratan ini..mybe ini dugaan bgku....n mybe ini akan mmbuatkan aku lg kuat dan tabah....ok....mula dri saat ini..aku harus berubah..harus melakukan satu anjakan paradigma dalam hidup ku....ok..fine....aku yakin yg aku mmpu teruskan hidup ini tnpa org lain...hurm..kadang2 aku tertnye tnye juga...knpe laa dlam dunia nie x de org yg sebijik mcm kita...kan best....same2 syg..sme2 cinta....hurm....so..aku kne redha yg hakikat nyer itu hanyalah khyalan semata mata...dan itu juga tidak mungkin terjadi....aku suda letih dngn ini semua..tidak cukupkah ape yg aku berikan selama ini....hurm.....n.....satu g....knapa laa semua org tidak mengmbil kesempatan yg telah aku berikan...mean,bila aku ckp yg aku nie syg n cinta sngt kamu...ini bermkna mmg aku btol2 dalam hal tu..sbb aku ssh sngt jatuh cinta...n...bila aku ckap yg aku jatuh cinta so mmg btol2 laa tu..tapi...smpai skrrang x de sesiapa yg menghargai n mengambil peluang tersebut...so..pluang itu berlallu pergi...ini mmbuatkan aku semakin hari semakin hilang dan luntur perasaan cinta itu.......Ya ALLAH berikanlah aku kekuatan dan ketabahn dalam mengharungi dugaan mu ya ALLAH....aku redha............ :-(........coretan yg ikhlas dri hti wan mohd hazwan bin wan zaki....
Yang menulis,Wan Mohd Hazwan
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